Showing My Work

Every now and then, Hubby gives me a listing of all the things he's done to make our lives better. It is part of his mental illness that he keeps track of every single aspect of everything he does. I am not that kind of person. But it is important to him that I am able to do the same thing. To show my work if you will. So, every day that I post here, I will be putting up my "work" for the day. Something to show that I care a little more than I did yesterday, that I am thinking more than I was the day before. That I have put in the extra effort, to be a better person, a better mommy, a better wife, than I was the day before.

Today, I stayed up after working a 10 hour shift, for an extra hour with my son. My mom normally watches him during the day, but she wasn't feeling well this morning. While staying up with the Boychild, I remembered Hubby's suggestion to DVR several of his favorite shows so that when he is being a beast, we can put them on for him. So I set the DVR to record 5 of his favorite shows, including Spongebob, which I hate, but the Boychild (and the Hubby while we're at it) loves.
After dinner, which he lovingly served me and brought to me in bed, we sat down and went over our bills. One of his biggest pet peeves is that he has no idea how much we owe on anything and when it is due, let alone how much he should be contributing. Today I made a point of informing him of all of these things. The reason we don't normally have these conversations is he always gets irritated about something stupid, and then it ends in an argument. Most of the time it's because he expects me to read his mind, and gets really angry when I have no idea what he's hinting at, when he seems to think it's completely obvious. This time, I made a sincere effort to think about what he would be asking and clarifying the questions he has before. He only got frustrated for a few moments, and then he too sat down and thought for a little while, and then re-phrased his concern in a way I could better understand. It made the entire situation easier for both of us.
Also, I showed logical thought whe nI left for work. As I carpooled with my dad tonight, I realized that I had no reason to be carrying my keys with me. So I left them at home reminding him that the car is there if he needs it.

Like I said, today was better.