The Positives

As this is a forum for me to make my relationship stronger, the first thing I would like to do (besides the obligatory intro post which I've already done) is to list the best parts of my marriage, and my husband. The things that I fell in love with, and especially the things that I still love about him.

What made me fall in love in the first place?

• We could talk for hours, late into the night.
• We liked the same TV shows and would watch them together.
• We shared interests.
• We are of the same faith.
• When I looked into his eyes and saw all the pain he has experienced, and that he still has love for life, I couldn't look away.
• Our goals in life were similar.
• We read the same books, and could talk about them intelligently.
• He looked at me with adoration and respect.
• He let me lighten the mood when it was too heavy.
• He was fully and completely loyal to his girlfriend until she threatened to kill the child that she was carrying.
• Even though everyone knew we loved each other.
• He spent his spare time making things for the neighborhood kids for free.
• The feel of touching him in the dark, not knowing where it was going.
• The wonder of each of his personalities opening up to me.
• Learning the quirks of each of his aspects, and falling in love with each of them individually.

Why, after four years, do I still love him?

• I always feel safe when wrapped up in his arms.
• Laying with my head on his chest or lap while watching tv, and feeling his hand absentmindedly playing with my hair.
• We still share the same interests in TV shows and books.
• He doesn't get mad over the big stuff, that I think he should get mad about.
• He does everything in his power to get me little treats, just to show he was thinking about me.
• He is an amazing Daddy, who clearly loves his son very much.
• Watching them play wrestle on the ground makes my heart soar.
• But not as much as joining them playing does.
• He wants to lay and cuddle with me for no reason. And it hurts him when we can't.
• We still go on dates, and dance together in the dark of the empty movie theater.
• His constant and consistant effort to control his temper even though it is against his very nature.
• His respect and love for my parents, even though they don't always get along.

I have my problems with my husband, but in the end they are not over shadowed by the fact that we love each other very much. This past month has represented a very rough patch in our life, but in the end I know it is our life, together, and it will be for a very long time. I have to know that.